Psst… I’ll Tell You A Secret

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When Deb and I sat down on Tuesday, November 8, 2016, to begin our most recent round of coaching, she immediately tasked me with re-creating my “bucket list.”  This was a list of 30 things that I wanted to do, be, or have in my life.  The list could consist of ANYTHING – from huge, Level 1 goals like solving the healthcare crisis in America to super-simple Level 3 goals like getting a new pair of sunglasses.  I had the entire world of options at my disposal.  I came back to session #2 with my list of 30 things and proudly read it to Deb. Like most of our clients, I quickly discovered, much to my dismay, that my list was, in fact, composed of a bunch of very rhetorical statements that I had absolutely no emotional attachment to. Damn!

So, I went back to the drawing board. I started asking myself the hard questions:

  • What do I really want?
  • How do I want to send my days?
  • What feeds my soul?
  • What things/people/events/opportunities will help me live a joyous and fulfilled life?
  • What is my PURPOSE?

So, at session #3 I present Bucket List 2.0, and although I didn’t know “HOW” a lot of that list would ever transpire, I just knew that I wanted them.

Last week, without any warning whatsoever, TWO of my Top 5 Bucket List items fell into my lap.

Anyone who has read more than 3 of my blog posts knows that I have a great affection and respect for my friend, one of the people who inspired me to start training for triathlon, Meredith Atwood.  One of my top 5 bucket list items was to collaborate with her on a program.  I didn’t know what kind of program or what the topic would be. We had kicked the tires on some concepts before, but she is always going Mach 5 with her hair on fire and the timing just wasn’t right; however, it continued to be a goal, albeit a longer-term goal.

Another of my Top 5 bucket list items was to spend my days “playing” on social media and actually get paid to do it!

So, imagine my surprise and delight when I received an email from Meredith last week that started off, “Hey lady! So. I have been marinating on a new program, and I wanted to see if you and Deb might want to be involved with.”

WHAT?

UHM, YES!

And guess what?  The platform of the program is Facebook-based, so I will indeed be spending my days “playing” on social media!

So, this brings me to the distinction between “allowing” and “forcing.” We have to ALLOW the things we want to come to us and know that if they are based in love and are in alignment with our values and our purpose, they WILL come – they might just not come on our timetable or exactly in the way we first envision them.  When we try to FORCE an outcome and exert our will, the outcome is generally not what we hoped it would be.

Now, what is this new program?  It’s called “Your Brave Mind” and you can read more about it here and here. And it’s going to be amazing!

In a nutshell, Your Brave Mind will be a series of online events (hosted on Facebook) that will each cover a different topic in the area of mental toughness.  The first event is on the bully in your brain! Cool huh?

The bully is that little voice that speaks to you whenever you try to step outside of ​the box​, tackle new challenges,​ ​or​ make a ​significant ​change in your life. Everyone has​ tha​t voice, it’s just that some bullies are much louder and meaner than others. In only 5 days you will gain the awareness​ (and tools)​ you need to tame the bully in your brain​. You will discover:

  • What​ (or who?)​ the bully is
  • Why listening to the bully is the absolute worst thing we can do if we want to change an area of our life
  • How the bully got its voice
  • Why the bully is so mean
  • Why making the decision to change will never be enough
  • How to actually change the conversation with the bully in your brain

If you have ever struggled with the mean girl/guy in your head who tells you that you are terrible or that you can’t do something, etc., then this program is for you! Come join us!

  • Cost:  $24.97
  • Forum: Online group coaching via a closed Facebook Group
  • Duration:  5 Days
  • Starts:  Monday, May 8th

Register Now!

 

I can’t wait to get started!  🙂

4 thoughts on “Psst… I’ll Tell You A Secret

  1. I believe you really can’t “sell” or “teach” mental toughness – it’s something that is earned along the way because you are put into positions (NOT by choice) that you have to overcome and endure. You can go through the motions by reading about it, saying your “mantras” and thinking positively, but in the end, your perseverance, grit and determination come from life throwing you into difficult loops that you have to overcome- or not. If participating in sports (triathlon) has been your “most difficult” challenge or “in the way” obstacle, then kudos to you, but you won’t get more mentally tough from doing something that you choose to do. Just my opinion.

    • I appreciate your opinion. Lord knows that life has thrown so many challenges at me over the decades – and triathlon is so trivial compared to many of them – and the process of overcoming them (however that happened) certainly made me mentally tougher. But some people want to move forward and don’t know how – they just need a place to start, you know? And it’s not about mantras or positive thinking, it’s about a process of facing fear – fear that paralyzes many people – and then moving beyond it. I’m glad you don’t an issue with that, but many people do. Peace.

  2. Hi Angie:

    What time of day will these live FB videos be? I’m on vacation in Hilton Head that week and want to see how it would work for me. Would these videos continue to be available after that week?

    Thanks.

    Sue Bellion 203-313-4143

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    • Hey Sue! The videos won’t necessarily be at a set time of day because both Meredith and Deb will be posting them. That said, I imagine Deb will want do them before noon. They will be pinned to the top of the page so you can watch later if you miss one (or more) live. And yes, the Facebook group will be open (probably for about a week) after the session concludes so that people can read, watch, and download anything they missed. I hope you’ll join us!

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